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From Doormat to Dreamgirl—A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a RelationshipDo you feel like you are too nice? Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman From Doormat to Dreamgirl—A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a RelationshipDo you feel like you are too nice? Sherry Argov's


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From Doormat to Dreamgirl—A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a RelationshipDo you feel like you are too nice? Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman From Doormat to Dreamgirl—A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a RelationshipDo you feel like you are too nice? Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman" who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask: · Why are men so romantic in the beginning and why do they change? · Why do men take nice girls for granted? · Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself? Full of advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, "she says/he thinks" tables, and the author's unique "Attraction Principles," Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom-line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you've discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you'll not only increase the romantic chemistry—you'll gain your man's love and respect with far less effort.

20 review for Why Men Love Bitches

  1. 5 out of 5

    Zey

    Bella Swan should have read this book! I am not really into self-help books like this because I really don't give a damn about guys. Sure, guys are such fascinating creatures. Sometimes I want them. But most of the times, I just want them to leave me alone. And no, I am definitely NOT a man-hater, I told you, they fascinate me. But I just couldn't make myself give a damn on whether men I know think I'm a doormat or a dream girl. I have much better things to do than that. And if a guy doesn't li Bella Swan should have read this book! I am not really into self-help books like this because I really don't give a damn about guys. Sure, guys are such fascinating creatures. Sometimes I want them. But most of the times, I just want them to leave me alone. And no, I am definitely NOT a man-hater, I told you, they fascinate me. But I just couldn't make myself give a damn on whether men I know think I'm a doormat or a dream girl. I have much better things to do than that. And if a guy doesn't like me anymore, sure as hell I won't try to woo him. There are a lot of fish in the sea. And we're living in a world with quite a number of oceans.I enjoyed reading this book, though. I really think this book is a must read for all the girls out there who think that the sun revolves around their boyfriends. My friend who just got dumped by her boyfriend for being "too-clingy" recommended this book to me. She said that if she only had this book earlier in her relationship, her boyfriend might have never dumped her. I don't know about that, but I think, this book might have helped her. Because this book shows that girls who value themselves, that are independent and have great self-respect and confidence are the ones who are really what you call: HOT. Being a bitch here is defined not in a negative context. A Bitch is someone who loves herself more than any man, and will never let a man control here life, no matter how much she loves him. She doesn't take shits from men and definitely doesn't tolerate being looked down upon like a doormat. She's independent, strong, intelligent, and has a life of her own. She doesn't sacrifice her other relationships just to suit the schedule of her boyfriend.A bitch believes that a relationship needs mutual respect and trust between the partners. She believes that she deserves only the best because she's willing to give her best in return. And yes, we all need to be a little bitch sometimes.It is a perfect read for girls who needed a little bit of a boost on their self-confidence and for girls who are in a not-so-healthy and co-dependent relationship. This book has tips on how to keep things interesting and to make guys crazy over you.I won't recommend it to guys though, because I don't want you to know our tricks. :)

  2. 4 out of 5

    Maui Doctolero

    I bought it...I read it...I read it for the second time around...I've learned so many things that I can't reveal because I discovered so many things...to myself and even for the benefit of my significant other...I applied it...It worked...It was successfuuuullll...Investment...Last wordS...WORTH KEEPING!!! I bought it...I read it...I read it for the second time around...I've learned so many things that I can't reveal because I discovered so many things...to myself and even for the benefit of my significant other...I applied it...It worked...It was successfuuuullll...Investment...Last wordS...WORTH KEEPING!!!

  3. 5 out of 5

    Donnie Corrêa

    Speaking of the book objectively: It contais a number of advices on pursuing something called "worthy man" or "good man". Such a man is romantic and cares for her potential partner, but is also childish, ego-oriented and selfish. He must be conducted by flattery and misconception. Many of the techniques showed in the book are going to work on a large number of males, in my opinion.It is also of my opinion that the outcome of this book is disgusting. All the prescriptive and inductive methods on Speaking of the book objectively: It contais a number of advices on pursuing something called "worthy man" or "good man". Such a man is romantic and cares for her potential partner, but is also childish, ego-oriented and selfish. He must be conducted by flattery and misconception. Many of the techniques showed in the book are going to work on a large number of males, in my opinion.It is also of my opinion that the outcome of this book is disgusting. All the prescriptive and inductive methods on how a woman should "deal" with a man are the sign a given woman has been looking for the wrong male profile. Considering such a view, having a dog is much more rewarding and for half the effort.It is my perception of what a worthy man is that makes me think I'd loath such treatment. The "dumb fox" - the archetypical woman who plays dumb to get what she wants and that is also the star role in the book - is not the woman I would look for, neither as a companion, nor as a friend. In fact, I'd like to keep all dumb foxes and their falsehood as away from me as I could.I want a woman who has no need to deceive, nor is conceited and also not afraid to speak up for herself. She doesn't "keep her cards close", but puts everything in the table when the other side follows.If you are a woman and want to board a relationship in which you manipulate and calculate a male in order to make him obey by sexual bribery and misdirection, please read it. It is probably going to both work and testify you found yourself a worthless mimicry excuse for a man, and, of course, that says something about yourself as well.Enjoy while you can.

  4. 4 out of 5

    Allison

    This is the worst "self help" book I have ever read. The dumb fox theory completely negates the entire book. How are you going to prove you don't need a man around when you can't change a tire or lightbulb without him? RIDICULOUS! I'm not going to dumb myself down to make my boyfriend feel better about himself that's his insecurity issues to work on! This book basically teaches a woman how to play mind games and be passive agressive which in my opinion are NOT going to land you a healthy, long This is the worst "self help" book I have ever read. The dumb fox theory completely negates the entire book. How are you going to prove you don't need a man around when you can't change a tire or lightbulb without him? RIDICULOUS! I'm not going to dumb myself down to make my boyfriend feel better about himself that's his insecurity issues to work on! This book basically teaches a woman how to play mind games and be passive agressive which in my opinion are NOT going to land you a healthy, long term relationship!

  5. 5 out of 5

    Anne

    I solemnly swear that I am up to no good with this review Curiosity never killed anyone. Who? WHO TOLD YOU THAT?!I read this book out of curiosity and for experimental purposes. I did it for science. Besides it was either this or 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen. R. Covey. I feel effective enough as I am right now. Should've gone with the effectiveness anyway. So I spent the past few days learning about the bitch theory: How to be a bitch. The bitch lifestyle. What the bitch eat I solemnly swear that I am up to no good with this review Curiosity never killed anyone. Who? WHO TOLD YOU THAT?!I read this book out of curiosity and for experimental purposes. I did it for science. Besides it was either this or 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen. R. Covey. I feel effective enough as I am right now. Should've gone with the effectiveness anyway. So I spent the past few days learning about the bitch theory: How to be a bitch. The bitch lifestyle. What the bitch eats, sleeps, thinks. Go for the crotch or rip his heart out straight upBut first. What the author means by this term - Bitch. Bitch (noun)- A woman who won't bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else's opinion--be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it's just one person's opinion; therefore, it's of no real importance. she doesn't try to live up to anyone else's standards- only her own. Because of this she relates to man very differentlyThe “new and improved” bitch is not a bad thing. She is a refined version of the proverbial, “old” bitch. She’s not abrasive or mean, nor does she nag to get what she wants. She speaks with her actions, and she’s only a bitch when she has to be. According to some, the word derives from the first letters in the following phrase: B abe I n T otal C ontrol of H erself. The only higher crown, the only higher honor, is to be called a “High Maintenance Bitch.” It’s a sign of success, indicating that this is the woman the guy ends up keeping. Pretty great I'd say. I learnt a lot from this book...that I will not be using. Why? Because I don't want to be a "bitch." I disagree strongly with a lot of points in here. Nice girl syndrome? Maybe. Some points were solid, I won't do this book a dishonour and be oblivious to them but I believe you can be a "nice girl" and still be firm and strong. I believe you don't need strategies and game plans in relationships. Trickery and a whole lot of other shenanigans to effect commitment. If you do then don't be sorry when it feels like a lie. Because it is a lie. The problem wasn't the advice and tips itself, but more about the context and how they projected the imagery of puppet and puppet master. This isn’t about how to play a game or how to manipulate someone. This is about whether you are genuinely needy, or whether you can genuinely show him that you’ll be an equal partner in the relationship. It’s about whether you are capable of holding your own in a relationship. Eeeeeeeee WRONG. If all that planning and strategizing isn't manipulation then my name is Tuli periwinkle. That is too manipulation.This book is so pretentious. This is the same book that seeks to expose and condemn the tricks men play and their own attention seeking methods. And yet it supplies us readily with tricks of our own. I'm imagining that scene from Pitch Perfect where the bellas have a riff off(Category: Songs about sex) with the Trebles. I'm imagining a red line and on both sides of it the two genders are armed, with swords drawn, and ready for war. I'm imagining Levana with her hands up in the air screaming: "Love is a conquest. Love is a war!" Someone's going to lose or get hurt. However, when a woman makes him wait and he’s romantic over time, the dinners and the flowers keep on coming. Why? Because he formed the habit of treating her with respect before he got what he wanted. Tell me something I don't know.Have you ever heard of the theory of classical conditioning by Pavlov? The Russian physiologist carried out an experiment which in time garnered the term, Pavlovian conditioning. We know dogs normally salivate at the sight of food. "Okay", Pavlov said. This was an unconditioned response, as in something inherent and unlearned. Pavlov noticed that his dogs automatically associated food with his entrance into the room and always delivered a salivary response(assuming he came bearing gifts). The objective of classical conditioning was to get the dogs to associate a particular thing(stimulus) with the reward(food). To teach them to react this way. Even I'm not in support of this, I imagine a day of high frustration when you forget to bring the offerings, those dogs are going to bite you. But if you're lucky they'll go straight for the jugular and make it quick.In his experiment, Pavlov used a bell as his neutral stimulus. Whenever he gave food to his dogs, he also rang a bell. After a number of repeats of this procedure, he tried the bell on its own. And what do you know? The bell on its own now caused an increase in salivation. The dog had learned an association between the bell and the food and a new behavior had been learnt. Because this response was learned (or conditioned), it is called a conditioned response. The neutral stimulus has become a conditioned stimulus. I don't think I need to explain how abnormal it is for me to think of this experiment while reading this book.What woman doesn't want respect? But now we debate this saying: "The end doesn't justify the means." There's the common example of children who were beaten growing up good. Such great exemplary kids with such great unjustifiable scars. If you have to manipulate every time to get your desired result in a relationship, be this-be that-be those, twist and bend and change shape until you bend out of form, to a certain extent this tactic might be productive but - Where does your peace of mind lie? While this book may rely on a man's denseness(not me, the book implies), he's not stupid, he'll notice the pattern and act the way you want, get what he wants anyway and it all becomes reverse psychology. Say hello to the boomerang theory. I guess it's a win-win situation where we're all happy and satisfied but this kind of happiness can only be marked by impermanence. Always having to go through a ritual of push and pull - humans are not springs, even the most resilient toys get broken. Now with your brain juice bleeding out and him mentally exhausted, it's a wonderful life, right? There's a difference between being smart and being a strategist. I was also really annoyed by how the author's male references were cardboard-cut-out-one-track minded jerks. Every man wants to have sex first; whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants upfront, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it" And after giving him sex, he would just let himself chase after the next hottie on the block. I know one man and I can swear on my Harry Potter books that he is not a chasing sex animal or hunter on the prowl(Roarrr). But since the real references in this book outnumber my vote by many to one, I'll bow out of this argument.It is of my opinion that yes, one shouldn't waste effort on the wrong person and lose one's self by giving too much but then you shouldn't resort to selfish, childish mind games and still lose yourself trying to act a role. It's like living on two extremes. How about finding a middle ground?☑ First lesson should've been:➡(Try to)Be okay with yourself as a person. As an individual. Throwing yourself into a role in a relationship is simply blunder-fail-bollocks-batshit-stupid.And...➡ I really felt sad reading some of the things the men who were interviewed for this book said. Some of them honestly came off as JERKS who never learned that Tom and Jerry games should never escalate outside of the screen. I look forward to them featuring in the sexy counterpart: Why women love jerks: The A-Z. A man's guide to being the greatest jerk of a woman's life - Grow up my friends.➡ The only thing I can say concerning this book is take what you want and leave the rest, fashion it to your own use. Be yourself and if a man asks for something not you, run away. Fast. Until your legs touch the back of your head.Initially all I had to say to this book wasThe intention of this book is true. The contents... It's a matter of who's reading it and what they're taking from it. So the right thing to say is not: "This book is wrong" or "Whoo-hoo! Women empowerment gone awry." I liked quite a few things about this book, a few hold true, but this just wasn't me. For me. But on the bright side there were really stellar quotes that meant a lot to me. Like the one I leave you with now: Throughout life, people will try to shake your faith in yourself. When this happens, remind yourself that the only way they can succeed is if you allow it. When you walk down the street of life, always hold your head high and keep walking. Don’t ever let anyone shake your faith in yourself, because that’s really all that you have.

  6. 5 out of 5

    Ana

    Fun read!Spent my time laughing with this book.Though it was a little bit repetitive.4.5 stars!

  7. 5 out of 5

    Sam

    I felt compelled to write a review about this book because it changed the way I dated and most importantly changed the way I treated myself. This is one of the most influential self help books I have ever read and I have made all of my girlfriends read it. Sherri Argov is insightful and cuts through BS with her sword of truth. Yes the title is a bit much but you get the true meaning of the word bitch when you actually read the book. The underlying premise of the book is about having self respect I felt compelled to write a review about this book because it changed the way I dated and most importantly changed the way I treated myself. This is one of the most influential self help books I have ever read and I have made all of my girlfriends read it. Sherri Argov is insightful and cuts through BS with her sword of truth. Yes the title is a bit much but you get the true meaning of the word bitch when you actually read the book. The underlying premise of the book is about having self respect, self love and maintaining control of yourself and your power as a woman. I have read this book time and time again and can tell you with utmost conviction that all the principals in the book work like a charm with men. It's not about playing a game, its about holding your own. They absolutely love bitches, they can't get enough of us. This book is a secret weapon for women every where. I truly felt awakened and empowered in every sense of the word after first reading this book. It truly changed my life and I have not said that about many books. A must read for all women!

  8. 5 out of 5

    Jessica Gartner

    I read this on the recommendation of a friend, and it was the worst book I have ever read in my life - which is really saying something, because I read 50 Shades of Grey.If this book is by any means an accurate depiction of modern relationships - hell no. I will gladly just stay single for the rest of my days rather than dealing with this fucking nonsense:"Whenever he does something handy around the house like putting up a shelf, praise him. It doesn't matter if the shelf hangs at a 45-degree an I read this on the recommendation of a friend, and it was the worst book I have ever read in my life - which is really saying something, because I read 50 Shades of Grey.If this book is by any means an accurate depiction of modern relationships - hell no. I will gladly just stay single for the rest of my days rather than dealing with this fucking nonsense:"Whenever he does something handy around the house like putting up a shelf, praise him. It doesn't matter if the shelf hangs at a 45-degree angle." What the actual fuck? No."Men have big egos and they need to have them stroked. This is what the 'dumb fox' does." No."A tip: When you are at his place any day of the week, don't do any housework" What the - WHY IS THIS A TIP? Are women doing this? Fine. I agree with this one. STOP THAT."Never ask a man to do something more than twice or he'll feel as though he's being scolded by Mom." Are you dating a 12 year old? "If that fateful day ever does arrive when he tells you that you are a bitch? Stop, and take a deep breath. Then enjoy the moment. Smile internally as you say to yourself, 'Okay. Now I know he truly does love me.'" Holy hell. This is the most terrifying paragraph in the English language. Nope nope nope nope nope nope nope.

  9. 4 out of 5

    Lili Marlene

    This book in my opinion Really sucks.Why?beacuse I believe anyone strategizing sooo much to not be treated like a "door mat" needs advice on self steem NOT on how to trick men.In my opinion you are trying to fix something that is not the root of the problem. This book in my opinion Really sucks.Why?beacuse I believe anyone strategizing sooo much to not be treated like a "door mat" needs advice on self steem NOT on how to trick men.In my opinion you are trying to fix something that is not the root of the problem.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Thea

    I picked up a used copy of this book as a gag gift, and my fascination with the intensive note-taking and underlining the previous owner had done in the copy lead me to read a good chunk of this book. Of what I read the basic concepts are acceptable enough; women should value their dignity and not allow their suitors to take advantage of them. However, the idea that a woman with a backbone is a "bitch", and the idea that women must be manipulative to gain fair treatment in a relationship (as de I picked up a used copy of this book as a gag gift, and my fascination with the intensive note-taking and underlining the previous owner had done in the copy lead me to read a good chunk of this book. Of what I read the basic concepts are acceptable enough; women should value their dignity and not allow their suitors to take advantage of them. However, the idea that a woman with a backbone is a "bitch", and the idea that women must be manipulative to gain fair treatment in a relationship (as demonstrated through chapters like "Dumb Like a Fox: How to convince him he's in control while you run the show") does much more to reinforce negative perceptions of women and harm woman's perception of themselves then to empower women.

  11. 5 out of 5

    Shriti Chatterjee

    I started reading this book while I was going through a rough patch in my relationship, and I'm plain disgusted by the contents of the book. Here's a gist of the book: 'If you are a hard-working, sincere, honest-to-God, monogamous, affectionate, wear-your - heart-on-your-sleeve kind of person, who values relationships, you're a NICE girl. If you are a shrewd person who knows how to get the better of other person in any relationship, by means of lies, manipulation, deception, hot/cool attitudes, I started reading this book while I was going through a rough patch in my relationship, and I'm plain disgusted by the contents of the book. Here's a gist of the book: 'If you are a hard-working, sincere, honest-to-God, monogamous, affectionate, wear-your - heart-on-your-sleeve kind of person, who values relationships, you're a NICE girl. If you are a shrewd person who knows how to get the better of other person in any relationship, by means of lies, manipulation, deception, hot/cool attitudes, and other power plays, then you are a BITCH. The author repeatedly urges you to transition from Nice Girl to BITCH, so that you may finally have your shot at love. She has sat down with so many men & boys of all ages to gain insight and help her sisterhood through these relationship mind-games. And in case, you are naive enough to not take her word for 'what men love', she'll directly quote them and turn you into a believer. Towards the end of the book, there is even an appendix of "Sherry's Attraction Principles" which just reminded me how much of a waste this book was.... The horrible advice, definitely fake quotes, the constant stories about power playing in relationships... It was just too much bullshit. I'm shocked that there exists a sequel to this: WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES! Ladies and gentlemen, you don't need to read either of these 2 books to understand why SOME men love/marry bitches, I'll tell you right now: Because it TAKES ONE TO KNOW ONE, and no one else will put up with either of them

  12. 4 out of 5

    Kenia Perez

    This book is great advice for any women are are pushovers. I think it's geared for those women, so that's why the book's content can seem so extreme and harsh. But before people pass judement on the book, the author Sherry Argov, points out from the beginning what she really means by the work 'Bitch' within the content of her book. She says NO woman should be what most people picture when they think of a bitch: abrassive, bad attitude, ungrateful, mean, etc... What Sherry means by the word bitch This book is great advice for any women are are pushovers. I think it's geared for those women, so that's why the book's content can seem so extreme and harsh. But before people pass judement on the book, the author Sherry Argov, points out from the beginning what she really means by the work 'Bitch' within the content of her book. She says NO woman should be what most people picture when they think of a bitch: abrassive, bad attitude, ungrateful, mean, etc... What Sherry means by the word bitch, is a woman who is independent, doesn't give up her interests or her life for anyone, doesn't compromise things that she values, stands up for herself when someone tries to take advantage of her, and doesn't take bullshit from anyone. The 'bitch' is the woman who has confidence, is comfortable and perfectly happy with who she is, and says 'This is who I am, either you like it, or you don't. Take it or leave it.' She is definitly still VERY nice and respectful to people, and handles herself very maturely with consideration towards others. I feel that there are a lot of woman out there who suffer from low self-esteem, and maybe they'll be positively influenced by reading this book. Too many of those low self-esteem woman will pretend to be stupid, or give up their friends, the gym, or any other interest - because she's madly in love and is afraid if she still takes the time to do her own thing and doesn't spend 100% of her time with a man, he will somehow lose interest and leave.Just be who you are, and he'll take you or leave you. So what if he leaves? Why would you want someone who doesn't want you?? And seriously, don't give up your life's passions, your values, or your dignity for ANYONE.As much as I liked the book, one particular bit of advice that I thought was ridiculous: "Don't kill a bug, change a light bulb, or fix anything around the house in front of him because it will make him feel inferior" Ok, I wouldn't call myself a Ms. Fix It but I can definitely handle some tools. I have a motorcycle that I have worked on myself, and I can change my own car's oil and tires. This goes back to the being yourself part: He'll either love you, or he wont.' My boyfriend thinks it's really sexy that I can be handy and that I ride motorcycles. Everyone's different, and you can't generalize between the genders too much.I do have to say that there are a few moments in the book that I don't agree with. In certain sections, I felt the author encouraged too much game-playing that is on the verge of manipulating a man. I have to say that women need to be honest. Dont play games. Be communicative - guys arn't mind readers. Of course, in dealing with people (and I mean anyone, not just a man), you sometimes have to say things in a certain way, with certain timing, or tone of voice. That's called people skills, and not game playing - we all do it, and you'd be lying if you said it is never necessary or it's wrong. Employ the people skills you need, as long as you're goal is for the relationship to be positive, reciprocal, and happy on BOTH sides, not just for you to get what you want.Overall though, it was a great read, with (mm...for the most part) great advice to encourage woman to be strong and smart!

  13. 4 out of 5

    Claire

    Although this book contains some good advice, handy tips and plenty of focus on self-worth, it has one fault that prevents it from covering all bases. The author's theories all work on the premise of traditional gender roles. There is a lot of focus on the alpha male stereotype, and throughout the book the idea that all women have the same goals in a relationship is prevalent. Not everybody fits into the author's polar presentations of male and female. She draws a lot from anecdotal evidence, an Although this book contains some good advice, handy tips and plenty of focus on self-worth, it has one fault that prevents it from covering all bases. The author's theories all work on the premise of traditional gender roles. There is a lot of focus on the alpha male stereotype, and throughout the book the idea that all women have the same goals in a relationship is prevalent. Not everybody fits into the author's polar presentations of male and female. She draws a lot from anecdotal evidence, and so too shall I: I am a woman, and I love the thrill of a chase. There is a whole section devoted to why women ought not to act as the initiator, which I personally found disheartening. Although the title suggests a forward thinking, liberal attitude towards relationships, this book was very conservative.Finally, what bothered me most was the "dumb fox" theory - in short, that women should pretend the men in their lives are the ones with the authority whilst achieving their own goals in a sneaky or subtle manor. That is entirely the wrong message to send out to women, young or old. It contradicts the notions of pride and independence found elsewhere in the book.

  14. 5 out of 5

    Lakshmi C

    3.5 StarsI picked this out of sheer curiosity and somehow it turned into a bookish detour.Non fiction is unfamiliar territory but I was pressed for time due to festive torture...ahem..I meant cleaning.Bitch (noun): A woman who won’t bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else’s opinion— be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it’s just one person’s opinion; therefore, it’s of no real importance. She doesn’t try to live up to 3.5 StarsI picked this out of sheer curiosity and somehow it turned into a bookish detour.Non fiction is unfamiliar territory but I was pressed for time due to festive torture...ahem..I meant cleaning.Bitch (noun): A woman who won’t bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else’s opinion— be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it’s just one person’s opinion; therefore, it’s of no real importance. She doesn’t try to live up to anyone else’s standards— only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently.The book has a risky title but the author clarifies her stance by providing this definition. This convinced me to give the book a chance.In the very first chapter, she raises a key point - women are conditioned to give themselves away. The source of approval is always external - be it the boyfriend, family or society. Someone else is at the steering wheel and this is detrimental to a woman's happiness. Another thing that I liked about this book - most relationship books revolve around men and how they are martian rubber bands and woodland creatures.Bridget Jones readers will get this one ;)But what about the women? Where do they go wrong? Why are they depleted and overwhelmed in relationships? What is their strategy to navigate this sinister labyrinth?The major takeaway is a woman needs her own approval and is responsible for her own happiness. Lets not turn this into a team exercise.Man woman relationship dynamics lead to endless debate and sketchy findings. It's a trope in many popular sitcoms - Friends, Seinfeld, Coupling, Sex and the City - We want to know what the other side is thinking and such discussions are a source of endless amusement. This book tries to answer these questions with some tips and a lot of humor. I finished this one pretty fast - the book uses biological roles, some research and plenty of anecdotes. Give this one a try for a fresh perspective on relationships.Now for some relationship advice from The King. 

  15. 5 out of 5

    Tien Pham

    First of all, I do like one message from the book. It's to respect yourself and expect to be respected. The advice to not put up with bad behaviors is much needed considering many women do tolerate a lot of bad treatments in an attempt to find and keep a relationship. So one extra star for that.Now, besides that, 2 scenarios will most likely happen for women religiously adhering to the book’s advice: 1/ they’ll attract an emotionally unavailable man who’s in it for the chase and eventually grow First of all, I do like one message from the book. It's to respect yourself and expect to be respected. The advice to not put up with bad behaviors is much needed considering many women do tolerate a lot of bad treatments in an attempt to find and keep a relationship. So one extra star for that.Now, besides that, 2 scenarios will most likely happen for women religiously adhering to the book’s advice: 1/ they’ll attract an emotionally unavailable man who’s in it for the chase and eventually grow unhappy in the relationship 2/they’ll attract an emotionally available man, grow unhappy in the relationship, and then drive him away. This book follows the premise that any quality man out there will want a lot of distance in the relationship, do not care or want intimacy, only in it for the chase, abhor any kind of communication, only show interest if you are completely independent and have no emotional needs, have a big ego that needs to be stroked constantly. This is a terribly flawed assumption, considering only 25% of the population actually acts like this. They're men with AVOIDANT attachment. Just look at adult attachment statistic. Men who are attracted to women following tactics advocated in this book most likely fall into this category.Will you get a man following the advice of this book? Sure. Will he be a "quality guy" as the author claims in the book? Well, that depends how you define the term. A quality man is one who's considerate enough to call when he says he'll call, lets you know ahead if he can't make it to see you, discusses plans with you and actually wants to hear your opinions, makes you feel comfortable when you want know where you stand in the relationship, not afraid of intimacy, and actually wants to be close to you rather than keeping distance. I know because my partner is like this and he is neither atypical or a wuss. He’s basically a man with SECURE attachment style.On the other hand, if you prefer a guy who does not want emotional intimacy, pays attention to you only when you ignore him, does not care about your needs unless you act aloof or fake not caring, Argov advocates just that.The most detrimental aspect about the book is that it promotes distance and control through feigning aloofness, manipulation, and deception, which in the long run will just harm the relationship. Ask a happy couple what is required for a healthy relationship, and TRUST will inadvertently come up. So if you constantly have to hold back your concerns and use trickeries and withdrawal to get what you need, how is trust supposed to be built? The advice of this book works to attract men who feel uncomfortable with intimacy, those who much rather keep an emotional distance. Things might go well as first. But eventually the woman would just be left feeling more like a doormat because she would constantly have to keep her needs in check and resort to staying aloof or playing “dumb” just to get the point across. What happens to simple communication? And how is feigning aloofness throughout the whole relationship in order to attract and keep a man supposed to be empowering for women? Furthermore, this book perpetuates the faulty notion that depending on others, even in love relationship, is bad. Throughout the whole book, Argov constantly reminds the woman to stay independent and cool, and not to show any emotional distress to her partner. In America and other Western countries, just the word "needy" and "dependent" can bring out intense shame in people. While I appreciate Argov’s assertion for women to respect themselves, her overemphasis on being independent might do more harm than good in the relationship. Our western society’s highly valued traits of self-reliance and independence do not translate well when applied to romantic relationships. I suspect this has something to do with the high divorce rates.Humans do NEED each other to survive. We do DEPEND on each other. We’re called social animals for a reason. As a psychology student studying adult relationships and the brain, and I've read plenty of neurobiological and anthropological evidences that illustrate this concept. Couples report satisfaction WHEN they regularly RELY and GO to each other for support, physically and emotionally, even when problems arise within their own relationship. Couples establish a "bond" for a reason. A bond happens when people take care of one another, allow themselves to be vulnerable, and DEPEND on each other for support. Romantic partners are not just purely for "enhancement" as Argov claims. This perhaps is a another flawed assumption promoted in the book, to see partners as purely enhancement while suppressing emotional needs to attract and keep them.Following this book's advice will attract the wrong men and drive away men who actually care about your physical and emotional well-being, and yes, the latter exist.

  16. 4 out of 5

    tessa

    dnf. I DON'T CARE ABOUT WHAT MEN LOVES GO FIX A CAR!!!!!! dnf. I DON'T CARE ABOUT WHAT MEN LOVES GO FIX A CAR!!!!!!

  17. 4 out of 5

    Aman

    DNFlife is too short to read this kind of books

  18. 4 out of 5

    Eslam Abdelghany

    والله كتاب جميل,معرفش ليه ناس كتير بتوقف عند العنوان,ايه يا اخوالنا ما درستوش بلاغة فى تانية ثانوى واللا ايه:)),ممتع الكتاب ,طريقة العرض,المنهج المعتمد من ناحية الكاتبة لا يشعرك لا بالملل ولا بالنفور,يمثل خطرا ساحقا ماحقا علينا,معشر الشباب والرجال الغلابة"جدا والله:)))",ولكنه اضافة لكلا النوعين الانسانيين اذا ما صلحت النوايا للاستفادة مما يقدمه الكتاب من نصائح وملاحظات,واخيرا وقبل ان أترككم فى رعاية الله وأمنه,حبيت هنا أحط ريفيو عجبنى,لاخينا فى الانسانية سام,من باب الحوار مع الاخر"اللى انا معرفو والله كتاب جميل,معرفش ليه ناس كتير بتوقف عند العنوان,ايه يا اخوالنا ما درستوش بلاغة فى تانية ثانوى واللا ايه:)),ممتع الكتاب ,طريقة العرض,المنهج المعتمد من ناحية الكاتبة لا يشعرك لا بالملل ولا بالنفور,يمثل خطرا ساحقا ماحقا علينا,معشر الشباب والرجال الغلابة"جدا والله:)))",ولكنه اضافة لكلا النوعين الانسانيين اذا ما صلحت النوايا للاستفادة مما يقدمه الكتاب من نصائح وملاحظات,واخيرا وقبل ان أترككم فى رعاية الله وأمنه,حبيت هنا أحط ريفيو عجبنى,لاخينا فى الانسانية سام,من باب الحوار مع الاخر"اللى انا معرفوش اساسا,اذن الى سام والسلام ختام:I felt compelled to write a review about this book because it changed the way I dated and most importantly changed the way I treated myself. This is one of the most influential self help books I have ever read and I have made all of my girlfriends read it. Sherri Argov is insightful and cuts through BS with her sword of truth. Yes the title is a bit much but you get the true meaning of the word bitch when you actually read the book. The underlying premise of the book is about having self respect, self love and maintaining control of yourself and your power as a woman. I have read this book time and time again and can tell you with utmost conviction that all the principals in the book work like a charm with men. It's not about playing a game, its about holding your own. They absolutely love bitches, they can't get enough of us. This book is a secret weapon for women every where. I truly felt awakened and empowered in every sense of the word after first reading this book. It truly changed my life and I have not said that about many books. A must read for all women!

  19. 4 out of 5

    Lilly

    Ok, first of all, I know you're reading this and rolling your eyes!!! (hi Jafar, hi Rustam!) It was a gag gift I got from my friend for my birthday so I gave it a whirl while I was at the gym- and finished it in a snap. It's actually pretty good! Bitch isn't really "bitch" in the traditional sense of the word. Basically her point is that women should have their own lives going on and that that's more attractive to men. Seriously since this is news to so many women, I'm happy for the author that Ok, first of all, I know you're reading this and rolling your eyes!!! (hi Jafar, hi Rustam!) It was a gag gift I got from my friend for my birthday so I gave it a whirl while I was at the gym- and finished it in a snap. It's actually pretty good! Bitch isn't really "bitch" in the traditional sense of the word. Basically her point is that women should have their own lives going on and that that's more attractive to men. Seriously since this is news to so many women, I'm happy for the author that she made a grip of money on spelling it out.This book is unfortunately not as funny/entertaining as some of its counterparts ("He's Just Not That Into You" is some damn funny writing, for example), but it's an intriguing addition to the self-help shelves (which, granted, are folding under their own weight). But she offers a delightful recipe for microwave popcorn (which she professes is the only thing you should cook a guy)) and 100 pointers on how to get a spine.

  20. 5 out of 5

    Julia Rubin

    Was this written in the 1950s? The author claims women should assert themselves and be independent and self-confident, but the catch is that in order to do that, women must please their men, the ultimate, gag-inducing crux of the book. It's riddled with contradictions, eye-roll worthy quotes from what men want in a woman, stereotypes, cliches and layered in sexism disguised as relationship help. While there are some pieces of good advice here and there, and overall the intentions *seems* good, t Was this written in the 1950s? The author claims women should assert themselves and be independent and self-confident, but the catch is that in order to do that, women must please their men, the ultimate, gag-inducing crux of the book. It's riddled with contradictions, eye-roll worthy quotes from what men want in a woman, stereotypes, cliches and layered in sexism disguised as relationship help. While there are some pieces of good advice here and there, and overall the intentions *seems* good, this is a difficult read to get through if you truly do understand what it's like to be a woman in American society.There is no room for individuality here. Both men and women are presented as poorly drawn, obnoxious caricatures of heteronormative gender roles. You know, the kind of men who hate "chick flicks", "feelings" and "girlie shit". Give me a fucking break.Avoid this one.

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